Day of the Dead Ritual

catrina-leveledHow old is the habit of denial? We keep secrets from ourselves that all along we know…. For perhaps we are like stones; our own history and the history of the world embedded in us, we hold a sorrow deep within and cannot weep until that history is sung.  — Susan Griffin

The desire to forget prolongs exile; the secret of redemption is memory.  – The Baal Shem Tov

On November 2nd, 2019 we led our 22nd annual Day of the Dead Grief Ritual.

I am convinced that we would solve many things if we all went out into the streets and uncovered our griefs, which perhaps would prove to be but one sole common grief…The chiefest sanctity of a temple is that it is a place to which men go to weep in common.  A miserere sung in common by a multitude tormented by destiny…It is not enough to cure the plague; we must learn to weep for it. Yes, we must learn to weep! Perhaps that is the supreme wisdom. – Miguel De Unamuno


In both West Africa and Central America they say that we are required to offer two things to help a recently deceased person complete his or her journey to the other side and become an ancestor: our tears and our beauty.



How to Lead a Grief Ritual

Francis Weller (Sonoma County)        

Maria Owl Gutierrz (Hawaii)

Earthrites Collective (Sonoma County)

Cheryl Jones (Oakland)

Martin Prechtel (New Mexico)

Malidoma Some´(Florida)


Martin Prechtel Speaks on Grief

— Martin Prechtel on Grief and Praise

— Michael Meade on the Funeral of George Floyd

— Francis Weller on “The Geography of Sorrow”

— Francis Weller Speaks on Grief

— Francis Weller on the Five Gates of Grief

— Barry on the Sixth Gate of Grief

Barry on Popularity of The Day of the Dead

Barry on Rituals of Grief

— Barry on Grief and Remembrance in Greece

Barry’s article, “A Day of the Dead Ritual”

— Grief and Our Ancestors: Robert Bly and Malidoma Some´

— Sobonfu Some´on Grief and Recovery

— Carolyn Baker interviews Barry and Maya

— Carolyn Baker: If We Have No Future, Why Grieve?

— Rafael Jesús González on Día de Muertos

— Dia De Los Muertos in Los Angeles

— Joseph Campbell on the roots of Halloween

— Arthur George on Halloween and Samhain

— Barry on Cultural Appropriation

— The Art of Grief: Poetry and Music

— Malidoma on Grief, Ritual and Sacrifice