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  • About
  • Maya's Writing
  • Barry's Writing
  • Ritual
    • SoulCollage®
    • Rumi's Caravan
    • Grief Rituals
    • Oral Traditions Salons
    • Men's Work
  • Events / Contact
  • Media

Grief Rituals

How old is the habit of denial? We keep secrets from ourselves that all along we know…. For perhaps we are like stones; our own history and the history of the world embedded in us, we hold a sorrow deep within and cannot weep until that history is sung.  — Susan Griffin

The desire to forget prolongs exile; the secret of redemption is memory.  – The Baal Shem Tov


I am convinced that we would solve many things if we all went out into the streets and uncovered our griefs, which perhaps would prove to be but one sole common grief…The chiefest sanctity of a temple is that it is a place to which men go to weep in common.  A miserere sung in common by a multitude tormented by destiny…It is not enough to cure the plague; we must learn to weep for it. Yes, we must learn to weep! Perhaps that is the supreme wisdom. – Miguel De Unamuno


For over twenty years we facilitated an annual Day of the Dead Grief Ritual. In both West Africa and Central America they say that we are required to offer two things to help a recently deceased person complete his or her journey to the other side and become an ancestor: our tears and our beauty. 


LINKS


How to Lead a Grief Ritual

Francis Weller 

Maria Owl Gutierrz 

Earthrites Collective 

Cheryl Jones 

Martin Prechtel 

Malidoma Some´


AUDIO / VIDEO / TEXT


Martin Prechtel Speaks on Grief

Martin Prechtel on Grief and Praise

Michael Meade on the Funeral of George Floyd

Francis Weller on “The Geography of Sorrow”

Francis Weller Speaks on Grief

Francis Weller on the Five Gates of Grief

Francis Weller Youtube interview

Francis is interviewed by Anderson Cooper

Barry on the Sixth Gate of Grief

Barry on Popularity of The Day of the Dead

Barry on Rituals of Grief

Barry on Grief and Remembrance in Greece

Barry’s article, “A Day of the Dead Ritual”

Grief and Our Ancestors: Robert Bly and Malidoma Some´

Sobonfu Some´on Grief and Recovery

Carolyn Baker interviews Barry and Maya

Carolyn Baker: If We Have No Future, Why Grieve?

Rafael Jesús González on Día de Muertos

Dia De Los Muertos in Los Angeles

Joseph Campbell on the roots of Halloween

Arthur George on Halloween and Samhain

Barry on Cultural Appropriation

The Art of Grief: Poetry and Music

Malidoma on Grief, Ritual and Sacrifice


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